girl who uses "asexual" in exactly the same way and meaning as "agender"; to mean that traditional notions of sexuality do not apply, and the spectrum you might be imagining is irrelevant
@whitequark the really cool part about queerness is getting to discard the usual rules and come up with something that works for your use-case. It's like linux that way.
Unfortunately it's also like linux the -other- way in which people who call themselves queer tend to cluster around a few big names and if you do actually make your own whole thing they'll try to tell you that you're doing it wrong and should be using emacs