current status: thinking of how many of my problems within the last few years could have been avoided by calling people out on their bullshit instead of being conflict-averse and letting it fester into Really Bad states
and how that applies to both people who in the end turned out to be reasonable and possible to coexist with after taking some criticism, and to people who really should have been told to go fuck themselves much sooner
and I guess a more specific lesson is that if you help an insecure asshole who has a grudge against you get a job at your company in the hopes that not being jobless will make them somehow better, then lol lmao,