theneverfox

theneverfox , vor 9 Tagen

Nah, because while it would be very easy to implement something like that, it would require specifically doing it. Programmers have 3 reasons for writing code

It's cool. It's necessary. I was told to do it in exchange for money

(And the secret fourth reason, it just kinda happened. I was building this related thing and I realized it'd be stupid easy to toss it in...I was in a fugue state and I have no idea what I wrote, but it's some of my best code ever)

Devs don't generally care about this kind of thing, and most of the time neither do the business folk. This kind of unnecessary crackdown only comes up when consultants like McKinney, who I've recently learned are the reason everything sucks

theneverfox , vor 28 Tagen

It's both. It's an invitation to bring up anything recent, but you can also treat it like a normal greeting if you'd rather not go there right now.

It's also open ended enough that you can say "I'm doing well, I've been thinking about my childhood a lot lately" and take the session wherever you want organically. It could also just lead into small talk while you get comfortable

theneverfox , vor 27 Tagen

Glad to hear it...I also found it helpful to know about the "pregnant pause". It's when they just look at you silently, waiting for you to continue. It makes you want to keep talking out of awkwardness

It helps me to think of that like an invitation, I'll think if anything else comes to mind and if I've got nothing left to say I'll just wait it out

theneverfox , vor einem Monat

I take lots of pictures, I just don't post them anywhere

theneverfox , vor 2 Monaten

Military-aged thing?

theneverfox , vor 2 Monaten

Well I just learned the term today, but it seems to have the implication "these are men who could be military. They could be hidden insurgents

theneverfox , vor 2 Monaten

"We're just asking questions!"

theneverfox , vor 2 Monaten

I feel like the key is consistency and not confusing the message

This is me, except these are all different levels of small chance I might want to go when the time comes. If it falls through or there's not a slot for me at that point I won't be offended because I didn't commit, and once I commit I follow through

Maybe it's a source of friction with some people, but I'm not big on planning. It's just a constant weight around my neck, even if I want to go and know I'll enjoy it

I've got three weddings this year, and the first has been weighing on me since the Xmas before last (it's at the end of the summer), the second since I heard about the engagement this Xmas and started dreading immediately, and the last is this winter and had me locking up for days. And these are all ones I said yes to immediately, but still every time someone brings them up my heart races

If your friends are actually being honest with you about their feelings, don't plan around them. Give them a casual heads up, and another one when they need to make a decision and start planning.

If they say "I'll think about it" when they mean "I want to keep my options open, I might get FOMO if y'all do something without me", let them scramble to catch up... Draw a clear boundary that sucks less for everyone

If they actually mean it how I do, the relief when it comes down to the last minute to act and someone says "you don't have to go, it's totally fine, we'll hang out when we get back" is so real. It makes me want to meet them halfway, because if I know it's not a let down to back out on a warmer "ask me in a couple weeks", the stress goes down.

I get to think about it stress free for a bit and sit with the idea. I get to decide how much I want to go vs how much I don't want to do the things necessary to go

theneverfox , vor 2 Monaten

How does that help? You can tell any computer it's Google.com or IP 8.8.8.8. you can tell your device that the other computer is correct, and middle man yourself

Except, we have one key to rule them all, one key to bind them. There's literally a group of people who split the root key among themselves, and scattered it across the world (when they went home). They get together ever year or two, and on a blessed air-gapped computer, unite the key to sign the top level domains again. Those domains sign intermediate domains, and down the chain they sell and sign domains.

If any of these root domains fall to evil, these brave guardians can speed walk to the nearest airport and establish a new order

(I think we actually just started installing all the root and some trusted intermediate domains on every device directly, so I'm not sure if they still bother, but it's a better story)

The solution you're looking for is DNSS, where we encrypt the DNS request too so they can't see any of the url. Granted, they can still look at you destination and usually put the pieces together, but it's still a good idea

Ultimately, packets have to get routed, all we can do is do our best to make sure no one can see enough of the picture to matter. There's more exotic solutions that crank that up to 11, but the trade offs are pretty extreme

theneverfox , vor 2 Monaten

Wait... Can't you just pick a version in steam?

theneverfox , vor 2 Monaten

Uhm... Have you considered that slack has cat picture plugins?

And meme plugins, and 30 other plugins that look for keywords then spam gifs for what you assume can only be an in joke before your time?

Oh, and one of the plugins actually creates tickets from chat, but jira is down and the guy who maintains it is busy writing a panda facts plug-in. So now it just vomits out an error message so everyone avoids the words "ticket", "issue", and "status"